After Loss Self Care and Getting Back on track, Again.

I tried to do this last year and I’m giving it a shot again. Last year was the most horrible year of my life, and this year wasn’t looking any better. Loss and grieving are subjects that require a thicker skin that I do not yet have..So, I am focusing- and forcing- my energy and thoughts into positive and hopeful ones. And to share, here are a few things that I have been doing to be in a happy place. Please do share with me anything else that I can do to feel optimal.

Selfcare (aka treat yo’ self)

One thing that I hate is going to the doctors. I don’t trust them and their advertisement of pills and band-aid medications. BUT I found this integrative medicine doctor, Dr. Charlie Ware in Hollywood, FL. that does acupuncture and Chinese medicine. I love his practice and his philosophy. So I finally went to the doctor, talked through the issues and got them needles in my nerves. I am good as new, sipping my herbal tea that gives me energy without the caffeine and feeling like my body actually responds to the demand- I mean kid’s demands. Go get relaxed and be healthy.

Also, as I write this I realized that the last time I had nail polish on my nails was last year! And I finally went. If you’re crunchy like me and hate nail polish smells and toxics, Luv Nail Shop in Midtown Miami has the perfect non-toxic solution (hear that, preggo momma?), they even bring you tea. ugh, #pampered. Self care for me is mostly being self-aware, so going to these places make me think about Me, Myself and I and what areas of ME I want to pay attention to. Today, it’s my hands, my gestures and how thankful I am to be able to type this, make dinner and wipe my kids’ butt. Nails did.💅🏼🙌🏼

Self-luv days at the shop are the best days 💕

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Cosmetics Detox

Speaking of toxic nail polish, I’m no longer using commercial shampoos or perfumes or lotions or creams or deodorants, for a good 6+ months 🙌🏼. The amount of formaldehyde, perfumes and aluminum in them is ridiculous. They don’t let the toxins out of the body, in fact they add more toxins! I still wanna smell pretty though so I use Pei Wai natural deodorant. Aura Cacia Chakra balancing rollers for perfume. Lush vegan (lemon) shampoo bars. Castor oil, jojoba oil and african shea butter (from that guy on the stand) for beauty things.

MONTALVANO shampoo bar. Citrus-packed for shine from LUSH
Aura Cacia Organic Chakra Balancing Aromatherapy Roll on Empowering Solar Plexus

Food Detox

I’m not paying very much attention to organic vs. not organic and that’s probably why my kid is dragging me around. I’ve been vegan for almost 6 yrs and lately not eating right anyway. To fix that, I’m cooking my way through this plant-based book. Eating organic and less processed stuff -I’m looking at you almond milks from the carton that I love so much. I’m taking vitex herb supplements for my uterus’ recovery. Green juices, no alcohol, no coffee (ok I cheat once a month or so), I drink this tea (dandelion root, lemongrass, turmeric, matcha tea- daaayum). I put cilantro in everything to remove heavy metals that don’t rock and drink golden milks all day.

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I went a bit crazy and I had a hard time focusing and stop thinking horrible things. Luckly I had a wonderful chance to work with the bestest of friends and a super cool client. Innergy Meditation,  Miami’s first meditation studio offers classes that focus on your heart, communication, freedom, connection and more. I got to learn so much about meditation working through their marketing and meeting their awesome instructors in the studio.

Another relieving thing for my mind was to declutter and think about my home as a minimalist home. Out came more than half of our closet and my jewelry (I love giant earrings), I sold excess furniture and a lot of my son’s toys and clothes. CLEAN UNCLUTTERED SPACE IS GOLD, I don’t know how else to share this but it does change your mindset.

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I also started listening to podcasts again! Here is a list of the episodes that resonate the most these days….clearing my mind.

The Minimalists Podcast

The Lively Show

Happier with Gretchen Rubin